'empty nest' syndrome...'Empty Nest' Syndrome is the name given to a psychological condition that psychiatrists have claimed is one of the most traumatic events in a women's life with the exception of birth and death.
The syndrome refers to the feelings of depression, sadness and/or grief experienced by parents after children come of age and leave the childhood home due to university, gap years, marriage etc... Women are more affected than men, although it should be noted that fathers do experience the syndrome to a lesser degree. |
A mother's role of caring and nurturing her children starts from the time they are born and from that moment her entire life revolves around her children. Therefore, it's not a surprise to find that once her children leave home, she feels she is no longer needed in the same way and has been left behind! In addition mothers can also be going through other significant life changes such as the Menopause that can make the transition more difficult.
So what is normal and when should you seek help? If you find yourself after your children have left home from time to time weeping or even going and sitting in their bedroom and spending time there, don't worry... that's a perfectly normal reaction. However, crying excessively and spending prolonged time in their rooms would be of concern.
Symptoms - if you experience one or more of these, please consider booking a session to discuss this condition and how I can help you:
Marriage Problems? When children leave home, some couples find that their partnership ends with couples divorcing once children leave the family home. This may be due to the last two decades being held together by discussions of school, jokes about children, success, sadness and watching your children grow over the years. Once your child leaves, you both realise that over time you have grown apart and are not the same people you were when you got married.
Alternatively, for those who are in a second marriage this may be the first time you have been alone together and your relationship needs to adjust to this change. This can be an exciting time for you both and a way to discover a new direction in your relationship. Whether it's a first or second marriage, take time to re-introduce yourselves to each other and actually spend time talking.
You may also notice anger is an emotion you feel when dealing with the grief and sadness after your child has left. It's important to remember that anger is an integral part of grief and both you and your husband/partner may feel it and subsequently take this frustration and anger out on each other.
Letting Go! Working with me during your sessions you will overcome the associated symptoms that accompany 'Empty Nest' Syndrome and develop your ability to nurture the creativity inside you. You can look forward and embrace this new found freedom and new possibilities that await you. Find the confidence to take the first steps on a new path with the comfort of knowing the relationship with your children is not over but instead part of a beautiful transformation in your life!
Rediscover Life...
Book your session today and allow yourself to relax, accept and find the women inside who is ready to be liberated!
So what is normal and when should you seek help? If you find yourself after your children have left home from time to time weeping or even going and sitting in their bedroom and spending time there, don't worry... that's a perfectly normal reaction. However, crying excessively and spending prolonged time in their rooms would be of concern.
Symptoms - if you experience one or more of these, please consider booking a session to discuss this condition and how I can help you:
- Feel your useful life has ended
- Crying excessively
- No longer feel needed
- So sad you don't won't to mix with friends or go to work
- Sadness overwhelming you
- Finding it difficult to maintain your relationship with your husband/partner
Marriage Problems? When children leave home, some couples find that their partnership ends with couples divorcing once children leave the family home. This may be due to the last two decades being held together by discussions of school, jokes about children, success, sadness and watching your children grow over the years. Once your child leaves, you both realise that over time you have grown apart and are not the same people you were when you got married.
Alternatively, for those who are in a second marriage this may be the first time you have been alone together and your relationship needs to adjust to this change. This can be an exciting time for you both and a way to discover a new direction in your relationship. Whether it's a first or second marriage, take time to re-introduce yourselves to each other and actually spend time talking.
You may also notice anger is an emotion you feel when dealing with the grief and sadness after your child has left. It's important to remember that anger is an integral part of grief and both you and your husband/partner may feel it and subsequently take this frustration and anger out on each other.
Letting Go! Working with me during your sessions you will overcome the associated symptoms that accompany 'Empty Nest' Syndrome and develop your ability to nurture the creativity inside you. You can look forward and embrace this new found freedom and new possibilities that await you. Find the confidence to take the first steps on a new path with the comfort of knowing the relationship with your children is not over but instead part of a beautiful transformation in your life!
Rediscover Life...
Book your session today and allow yourself to relax, accept and find the women inside who is ready to be liberated!
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